Men's circles
“When men sit in circles together, they remember the old ways — how to listen, how to feel, how to be.”
Robert Bly
Why Men’s Circles Matter
Most men carry more than they show. We keep moving, fixing, performing, and coping, but often without a space to slow down and feel what’s really happening inside.
A men’s circle changes that. It’s a place where you can drop the armour for a moment and meet other men who are doing the same. No competition. No pretending. Just presence, honesty, and breath.
When men gather in this way, something ancient comes alive again — a kind of brotherhood that reminds us we’re not meant to do life alone.
Many men today feel disconnected, isolated, or unsure where they belong. Studies show that more than a quarter of men in the UK say they have no close friends. (Vitality, 2023)
And yet, when men come together to share, listen, and be witnessed, that isolation begins to dissolve.
A men’s circle isn’t therapy, yet it can be deeply healing. It’s a place to speak what’s true, to be met without judgment, and to rediscover your own strength through connection.
This work matters because it helps us remember what healthy masculinity really looks like, not performance or control, but grounded presence and honest relationships.
When we sit together like that, something shifts. Not just in the room, but in our lives, our relationships, and the world around us.
The closed circle is the path for men who want depth, consistency, and real brotherhood. For those who are not ready to commit to a six-month journey, the open drop-in circles offer support and connection when needed.
The Closed Circle
A six-month commitment to truth, presence, and brotherhood
This closed men’s circle opens only twice a year. It will be an intimate group of 10-12 men. Once we begin, the same men journey together for a full six-month cycle. No one else joins. No one disappears halfway through. This stability creates the conditions for depth, truth, and real accountability.
I am part of the circle with you. I sit in the work, I bring my own practice, and I hold the container from the experience I have as a body-oriented therapist and a man who has walked this path for many years. I am a few steps ahead in some places, but I am not outside the process. I guide, I challenge, I support, and I stay in the work alongside you.
Over time, we learn each other’s stories, patterns, and blind spots. We see when someone is hiding or shrinking, and we name it honestly and with care. Not to shame, but to bring each man back to himself. This is the heart of the circle: meeting one another without performance, without collapse, and without pretending.
Because the same men stay together for half a year, the connection becomes solid. Brotherhood stops being an idea and becomes a lived experience. There is more truth, more challenge, more humour, and more support. The circle becomes a place where men practise presence, speak directly, and learn to stand in themselves with integrity.
The group meets online once a month, usually early in the month. In-person is optional, depending on the group's geography. When you do not show up, you are genuinely missed. There is no punishment, yet there is a consequence, because your presence influences the whole circle. This is a self-sustaining group in the true sense: we all carry the work, each from our own leadership. We name our needs, we speak our boundaries, and we take responsibility for making them known.
Between sessions, we stay connected through a dedicated WhatsApp group. You receive weekly practices, daily check-in invitations, and a place to bring whatever is happening in your life. I offer practices and guidance when needed, and the men support each other through the ordinary and the difficult. You also have one personal 1:1 session with me during the cycle to deepen your work. The process continues between meetings, not just on the call.
You will also be paired with a buddy for the duration of the cycle. This is another man you bond with and use as support throughout the journey. You decide together how often you meet or call. You keep each other accountable, call each other out when needed, and offer support when things get challenging.
This circle is for men who want to go deep, stay accountable, and grow alongside the same brothers over time. If you want a space to drop the mask, reconnect with your body, and step into life with more presence, this container offers that path.
Everything shared in the circle stays in the circle. Men speak honestly, respect boundaries, and never use another man’s vulnerability outside the group. This commitment creates the safety needed to work with themes such as sexuality, shadow, power, and intimacy.
The six-month arc
The circle moves through a clear six-month journey. Each session deepens the work, while leaving room for the challenges and themes that arise in men’s lives. The shape is intentional, but flexible enough to meet what is actually happening for you.
Month 1 — Arrival, group setting, and embodiment
We begin by grounding in the body and establishing the container's safety. Each man names where he is in life, what he brings, and what he wants to work on. We start to recognise how we show up, where we avoid, and how we relate under pressure.
Month 2 — Patterns and blind spots
We look at the structures that shape us. Old habits, survival strategies, and the familiar ways we hide or perform begin to surface. Through somatic awareness and honest reflection from the group, men begin to see themselves more clearly.
Month 3 — Shadow and accountability
This is where we turn towards the parts we usually avoid. Shame, anger, sexuality, competition, withdrawal. We practise speaking honestly without collapsing or attacking. The group becomes a place where truth is met with clarity and care.
Month 4 — Power and boundaries
We explore strength without domination and vulnerability without collapse. Through embodied practice, men learn to take up space, set boundaries, and speak from a grounded centre rather than from reaction or performance.
Month 5 — Intimacy and connection
We bring the heart into the work. Men look at their relational patterns, the ways they open or shut down, and how they communicate in intimacy. This month often brings real shifts in relationships, because men begin to meet others from a more present and honest place.
Month 6 — Integration and direction
We gather the threads of the six months and look at who you have become. Each man names the shifts he has made and the commitments he is ready to live. We close with a clear sense of direction and a deeper connection to self, purpose, and brotherhood.
WhatsApp support (to reinforce the arc)
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Weekly practices aligned with each month’s theme
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Daily check-in invitations when the work intensifies (month 2 onward)
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Somatic prompts and micro-practices
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Space for real-life challenges and group support
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Integration prompts toward the end of the cycle
What a monthly session looks like
Each session follows a steady arc that supports depth, honesty, and real connection. The structure is simple, but the work goes deep.
Arrival and settling
We begin by arriving in the body. A few minutes of grounding or breath help us shift out of the day and into presence; it helps us connect to our bodies and to what is present in the moment.
Opening check-in
Every man shares where he is right now: physically, emotionally, and inwardly. This creates the field of honesty we work from. You are not expected to perform or explain. You speak your truth in the moment.
Group resonance
After the check-in, we pause to notice what themes are emerging. Men reflect on what touched them or where they feel connection. This helps the group sense where the energy wants to move.
Theme or teaching anchor
I offer a short frame that sets the tone for the session. It may relate to boundaries, shadow, intimacy, avoidance, power, or presence. This gives the group a shared direction.
Depth work and sharing
This is the core of the session.
Sometimes one or two men step forward for a deeper process.
Other times, the group explores a shared theme.
Men challenge and support one another with honesty and care.
The focus is always on presence, truth, and what is alive in the moment.
Integration, commitments, and closing
Before closing, each man speaks to what shifted for him. This helps the learning settle into the body and clarifies what he is taking from the session.
We end with a simple ritual of completion. Every man names one commitment for the month ahead, grounding the work in everyday life.
Investment
The six-month closed men’s circle is £895 for the full cycle.
Pay in full, or choose to pay £230 per month.
If you are experiencing financial hardship, you can always contact me to explore a workable solution.
This reflects the depth of the work, the group's continuity, and the additional support offered throughout the journey.
Your investment includes:
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Six monthly facilitated online sessions
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A buddy for accountability and support
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One personal 1:1 session with me during the cycle
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Individual support from me through WhatsApp
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Weekly practices and daily check-in invitations
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Ongoing support and guidance in a dedicated WhatsApp group
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A committed community of men who stay together for the full six months
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10% discount on all my other sessions and workshops for as long as you are part of the circle
This circle is for men who want to commit to themselves and to the group. The price reflects the level of presence, facilitation, and support I provide throughout the six months, both during and between our meetings. If you prefer a slightly different price point, I can propose alternatives.
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The Open Circle (drop-in format)
The drop-in circle is a space any man can step into when he needs a place that's steady, honest, and real. There is no ongoing commitment. You join when life asks for it, and you stay away when it doesn’t. The door is open, and the welcome is the same each time.
These circles are held lightly. I guide the space and set the tone, but there is room for the group's energy to shape itself. This format is intentionally flexible. Some months, I will run them online; other times, in person in London. They appear on the events page whenever a new date is set, and I announce them through newsletters, communication groups, and social channels, so you know when the next gathering is coming.
A drop-in circle works well if you want a place to bring whatever is happening in your world without having to explain yourself or hold it together. Whether you are overwhelmed, numb, curious, frustrated, or simply longing for contact, you can enter knowing there will be men who meet you without judgment and without needing you to be anything other than who you are.
It is also an accessible first step into men’s work. You get a taste of what it feels like to sit with other men in truth, to speak from the body, and to feel the steadiness that comes from being witnessed. And whenever life gets busy or heavy, you can return and reconnect.
Pricing is kept simple and open: £14 concession, £18 standard, and £22 for those who want to support others by giving a little more.
If you want a space you can lean into from time to time, rather than a structured monthly commitment, the drop-in circle is where you can land.