How I came to work with men

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My name is Dirk Plas. I work mainly with men who, on the surface, have their lives together, but feel disconnected on the inside.

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Many of the men I work with are capable, thoughtful, and responsible. They work hard, care about the people around them, and try to do the right thing. Yet they often feel stuck in their heads, cut off from their bodies, and unsure about what they really want or need. Over time, this shows up in stress, frustration, relationship issues, or a loss of direction.

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I know this territory well. My own life has been shaped by a long search for a more solid, grounded way of living. I sensed early on that there was more to life than managing responsibilities and pushing through. More presence. More connection. More honesty. For a long time, I did not know how to access that in a practical way.

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That search is what led me into this work.

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Why I focus on men

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Many men have learned to rely almost entirely on thinking, problem-solving, and control. These skills are useful, but they often come at the cost of feeling, sensing, and being present. When the body is ignored for too long, men lose touch with their values, boundaries, and instincts.

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My work helps men come back into contact with themselves. We focus on what is happening in the body, how emotions are experienced physically, and how patterns show up in real situations such as work, relationships, and sexuality.

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From there, change becomes practical. Men make clearer choices, set firmer boundaries, and show up more steadily in their lives, not because they try harder, but because they are more connected to what is actually going on inside them.

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What I stand for

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I believe men function better when they can be both strong and flexible. Clear and emotionally available. Grounded under pressure without shutting down or overreacting.

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I am interested in men who take responsibility for their lives, their relationships, and the impact they have on others. This includes learning to lead without controlling, to connect without losing oneself, and to stay present in difficult conversations rather than avoiding them.

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This is not about becoming a different person. It is about becoming more consistent and real in how you live and relate.

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How I work

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My approach is body-oriented and practical. We do not stay at the level of talking about problems. We work with how stress, emotion, and tension are held in the body, and how this affects behaviour and decision-making.

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Sessions may include breathwork, physical awareness, movement, and direct inquiry into what is happening in the moment. Everything we do is aimed at helping men develop a more reliable inner sense of balance, rather than depending on external validation or constant effort.

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My background

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In 2009, I began my personal journey at Venwoude in the Netherlands, followed by a professional three-year Integral Leadership Training, during which I qualified as an eclectic Integral Coach. Over the years, I have taken part in and facilitated men’s initiation retreats and training programmes focused on embodiment, relationships, sexuality, and leadership.

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I have been guiding men on their path for over a decade.

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I am also trained as a Body Psychotherapist in Core Energetics and certified as an Authentic Relating facilitator. Alongside formal training, my own relationships and life choices have been a continuous source of learning.

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The more clearly I understood myself, the more grounded my decisions became. That has had a direct effect on my work, my relationships, and my sense of direction. This is the experience I draw on when I work with men.