The Grounded Man Assessment

You Know Something Needs to Change.
But You Don’t Know Where To Start.

This free, body-based assessment helps you understand how stress, pressure, overthinking, and emotional patterns show up in your body, relationships, and daily life.

Designed specifically for men. Which of the following are you?

Does this sound familiar?

You keep functioning.
You keep performing.

But underneath it, something feels off.

Maybe you:

✓ overthink everything
✓ feel disconnected from yourself or others
✓ struggle to relax, even when there is time
✓ feel pressure, frustration, or numbness in your body
✓ know something has to shift, but don’t know what

If that meets your needs, do not bother with this test.

In 5 minutes, 17 questions, you’ll discover:

How stress and pressure show up in your system
Which areas of your body may hold tension or disconnection
Your body pattern profile
How your patterns affect work, relationships, and energy
Your strongest stress indicators
Practical next steps to create more grounding and clarity

I’ve worked with men for more than 13 years through body psychotherapy, breathwork, men’s work, and embodiment practices.

This assessment is designed to help you understand what keeps draining your energy.

Most assessments stay in the mind.

This one includes your body.

It includes your daily life!

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People often see me as together and capable even when I’m not feeling that way inside.

I naturally make myself big or noticeable when I walk into a room.

I often feel more in my head than in my body and can feel a bit disconnected from myself.

I’m solid and can keep going but I carry a lot of tension or pressure in my body.

My energy goes up and down and I sometimes feel like I need others around me to feel fully okay.

Q1 Looking at your body...

I stay where it feels comfortable until I know my place.

I’m aware of how I come across and relax more once I know where I stand.

I quickly work out who is who and where I fit in socially.

I hang back first watch what is happening and join in once I feel safer.

I quickly look for someone warm or approachable and want to know where I stand.

Q2 You arrive at an event where you know nobody...

I often go along with things while quietly carrying frustration.

I want closeness but opening up fully does not come naturally.

I sometimes pull back or lose touch with what I actually want.

When someone goes quiet or pulls away I quickly wonder where I stand.

Depending too much on someone makes me uncomfortable.

Q3 In relationships...

I put a lot of pressure on myself to get things right.

When pressure goes up I disappear into thinking planning or my own world.

I usually end up carrying more than my fair share.

If things are messy I step in quickly because I trust myself more than others to sort it out.

I work better when I feel appreciated supported or part of the team.

Q4 At work...

I hesitate because I do not want to come across badly or make things awkward.

I ask for it to be fixed.

I eat it but I’m annoyed about it.

I notice it but saying something feels like more hassle than it’s worth.

I do not want to ruin the atmosphere so I let it go.

Q5 You're in a restaurant and your risotto arrives undercooked...

I stay there for him even if I’m already stretched.

I need a moment to work out what is actually going on.

I quickly start thinking about what might help him move forward.

I want him to know he is not alone.

I try to help but staying practical feels easier than getting emotional.

Q6 A mate is struggling...

I give in but part of me resents it.

I try to steer things more towards what works for me.

I can take it personally when my needs seem less important.

I lose track of what I wanted in the first place.

I hold my ground because compromise can sometimes feel uncomfortable.

Q7 Someone close wants something different from you...

I put my head down and keep going even when I’m running on empty.

I become more controlling or perfectionistic because mistakes feel expensive.

When there is too much on I wish someone would help carry it.

I quickly look at who what or how I can regain control of the situation.

I avoid it distract myself or disappear into overthinking.

Q8 You have too much on your plate...

I get impatient when things move too slowly.

I disappear into my own thoughts and sometimes feel slightly separate from the group.

I relax more when there are clear expectations and things feel organised.

I compare choices or wonder whether I picked the right thing.

I choose what makes sense rather than what I actually want.

Q9 Dinner with friends...

I have strong ideas about how it should be done and get irritated when standards drop.

I jump between things and lose track of what I was doing.

I feel better when people reassure me I’m on the right track.

I get specific because I want control over the outcome.

I find it hard to tell people they are doing something wrong.

Q10 Friends helping with DIY...

I naturally step into organising people and directing things.

I quietly take on extra jobs without saying much.

I make sure people feel welcome and included.

I focus on details because I hate things falling apart.

I’m better with ideas than organising.

Q11 Planning a surprise party...

I worry there won’t be enough even when there clearly is.

I lose track of time because I get absorbed in what I’m doing.

I mostly hope everyone enjoys themselves and feels looked after.

If things get messy I take over.

I want things to look right and feel irritated when they don’t.

Q12 Cooking for friends...

I carry on even when it feels heavy.

I switch off from it because it gets too much.

I absorb a lot of it emotionally.

I look for certainty because uncertainty does my head in.

I focus on staying ahead and making sure I’m not caught off guard.

Q13 Looking at the world right now...

I push back or try to take control of the situation.

I worry the connection may be damaged.

I try to stay composed and not show too much.

I hold it in but feel resentful later.

I go quiet or pull back until I feel safe again.

Q14 When conflict starts

I appreciate it but feel uncomfortable needing help.

I do not always know what I need or how to receive it.

I struggle to receive it because I prefer being the one in control.

I accept it but may still feel I should manage it myself.

I feel relieved because part of me has been waiting for support.

Q15 When someone offers you real help

I freeze or lose touch with what I actually want.

I worry they may be disappointed or pull away.

I say yes even when I mean no.

I push back quickly if it does not work for me.

I say no if needed but still feel uncomfortable about it.

Q16 Someone asks something from you that you do not want to do

I lose myself in thinking daydreaming or disappearing into my own world.

I quickly want contact company or something shared.

I keep busy because stopping feels uncomfortable.

I look for something useful productive or stimulating to do.

I start organising planning or creating structure for the day.

Q17 You finally have a completely free day with nothing planned