Tending the Fire
“A man who stands for nothing will fall for anything.” Malcolm X
Tending the fire - a full day immersion
This is a full-day, in-person workshop for men who want to move from insight into embodiment.
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This day is for men who have recognised the call and want to go deeper, together, in a committed and contained space.
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Up to 16 men gather for a live, experiential day. We revisit the three paradigm shifts introduced in the webinar, not as ideas to understand, but as lived orientations you can feel, practise, and integrate into your body and daily life.
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This is not about learning more concepts. It is about slowing down, grounding, and embodying a different way of being a man: present rather than performative, connected rather than armoured, rooted rather than reactive.
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Through embodied practices, guided inquiry, breath, relational exercises, and honest dialogue with other men, you will explore how these shifts show up in your work, your relationships, your sexuality, and your sense of purpose.
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The day is facilitated by Alexander McKain and Dirk Plas, founders of The Men's Lodge. We are both in the room with you, holding a clear structure while staying close to what is alive in the group.
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Tending the Fire is a place to stabilise your inner flame before stepping into the deeper initiation of retreat work, or to simply strengthen the ground you are already standing on.
What does the day look like
Tending the Fire is a full-day journey from doing to being, and from habit to choice.
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We begin by slowing down. Men arrive with the pace and pressure of everyday life. The morning is about landing in the body, settling the nervous system, and creating a shared sense of safety and presence.
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From there, the focus moves to the first shift: stepping out of performance and into presence. Rather than pushing or fixing, men are invited to feel what is actually here and practise staying with themselves.
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As presence grows, the work becomes relational. The second shift explores how men protect themselves and where connection gets blocked. The invitation is to soften armour without losing strength, and to meet other men with honesty and respect.
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In the final part of the day, attention turns to grounded choice. With more stability and contact in place, men explore how to respond rather than react, and how to act from clarity and integrity.
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The day closes with integration and reflection, helping men carry what they have embodied back into their lives.
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This is not about intensity. It is about depth, steadiness, and building a fire that can last.