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The Endurer

You are someone who works tirelessly and is incredibly compassionate. You possess strength, reliability, and a deep sense of protectiveness for your loved ones. Your determination and ability to accomplish tasks are unwavering, regardless of the challenges you face!

The primary psychological character structure known as the "Endurer" corresponds to the "Masochist" structure and is linked to the period of a person's life when they are developing autonomy, which typically occurs between 18 and 36 months of age.

Main features of the Masochist structure

Body

Your body is probably more muscular around your shoulders, neck, and legs. Most of your tension tends to accumulate between your pelvis and throat, which can result in some tightness. Your buttocks might appear somewhat flat, and your feet typically lack a noticeable arch. You might often feel a constant sense of pressure in your torso, especially during stressful situations or when you need to take action, which can sometimes lead to procrastination or canceling plans.

Mind

Your mind is often preoccupied with many thoughts, especially on small details. This preoccupation serves as a distraction to avoid acknowledging and expressing your emotions, which are typically there but not openly discussed.

When you have to make decisions, you tend to overanalyze the disadvantages and advantages, which often results in delaying action, known as procrastination.

When your emotional needs remain unexpressed, it can lead to feelings of frustration, self-criticism, and assigning blame. This may manifest in passive-aggressive behavior as a response.

Spirit

You might find yourself too busy or impatient to sit down and meditate, trying to connect with your inner self or a higher power.

 

When you do attempt to meditate, your mind tends to wander, and you feel the urge to be productive. You might even criticize yourself for spending time on what seems like "doing nothing."

The Endurer in relationship

You care deeply for your partner and provide genuine support, but there's a risk of losing sight of your own needs. This might come across as trying too hard to please them, and you might feel like you have to constantly earn their love.

You're a protective, strong, and dependable person who works hard. However, you crave validation and recognition from your partner for your efforts.

During conflicts, you tend to give in easily. You often take things personally and blame yourself for problems in your relationship. Instead of examining the dynamics between you and your partner, you tend to focus on fixing yourself through therapy.

You likely have a strong sex drive when you're in a relationship.

You're not one to give up easily, even when facing tough times in your relationship. You'll stick around until you're certain it's not the right relationship for you.

 

Your relationship with yourself is often strained. You're probably not very satisfied with who you are or the way you live your life. You often struggle internally between the desire to give to others and the need to take care of yourself.

The Endurer in life

You have a strong determination that enables you to achieve your goals, and you're committed to completing tasks, no matter what it takes.

You often have a natural inclination to assist and uplift others, and you come across as a friendly and cheerful person. You're adept at understanding the needs of others but tend to neglect your own needs, sometimes considering them less important.

When it comes to starting tasks, you frequently experience anxiety, leading to procrastination. It's challenging for you to feel at ease when you have to perform.

Externally, you often appear composed and grounded, but internally, you may struggle with stress. Negative emotions like anger and frustration are familiar to you, but you usually don't express them directly. Instead, you might harbor resentment, complain, or exhibit passive-aggressive behavior.

Saying "no" isn't something you often do. You tend to take on more responsibilities than you can handle, often stepping in to tackle tasks that others avoid, adopting the mindset of "Someone needs to do it, so it might as well be me!"

Simple exercises

Pay attention to your own needs and boundaries, and make sure to communicate them clearly.

Try saying this affirmation regularly throughout the day: "My needs matter more to me than others!" Pay attention to how you feel when you say these words.

Your body might often feel tense with tight muscles in your neck, shoulders, hips, and hamstrings. Stretching is crucial for people who tend to endure a lot. Consider practicing Yin yoga for relaxation and flexibility.

I want more

If you see yourself in this description and want to learn more, you can schedule a complimentary 20-minute consultation or an introductory session with me. During our session, we'll delve deeper into the traits and potential of the Endurer.

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