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The Achiever

You probably take much pride in your work and strive for perfection. You're concerned about how others perceive your actions and appearance. You're highly intelligent and tend to rely on your intellect rather than your instincts. You often have a clear idea of how things should be done.

The primary psychological character structure associated with the Achiever personality type is called the "Rigid structure," and it typically develops during the oedipal period, which occurs between the ages of 4 and 6 in a person's life.

Main features of the Rigid structure

Body

When you're determined, your jaw is typically clenched.

Your upper body tends to stay upright, indicating confidence. Women usually have more flexibility in their hips, while men often have less and can appear somewhat rigid in their movements. Men may exhibit a more mechanical or robotic way of moving.

When you stand, you often shift your weight onto one leg, resembling a posture associated with confidence, sometimes referred to as an "Alpha male" or "Alpha female" stance.

Mind

You're probably quite intelligent and have a knack for keeping things organized. Logic and structured thinking come naturally to you.

Your mind tends to analyse situations, trying to understand what's happening. Uncertainty isn't your cup of tea, so you prefer to have a clear sense of where you stand in any given situation.

Spirit

You probably value honesty and safety and might be skeptical of untested beliefs. Established religions might also pose some difficulties for you.

 

You frequently experience feelings of not being loved and feel compelled to demonstrate your affection by striving for excellence and consistently delivering your best. Letting go and embracing love or spirituality is the most significant challenge you face.

The Achiever in relationship

You're likely an attractive and sought-after partner. You exude confidence, decisiveness, and self-assurance. Your physical appearance is strong and appealing, making it easy for you to enter into relationships.

In relationships, you tend to invest minimal effort but excel at maximizing the benefits, much like in business. You're skilled at discussing the mechanics of a relationship with your partner and ensuring it works.

However, showing empathy and compassion in a relationship can be a struggle for you. Truly understanding your partner's perspective and fully connecting with their world is challenging.

You might also have a strong inclination towards deep friendships or even engaging in loving polyamorous relationships alongside your primary one.

While your sexual relationship is generally satisfying, intimacy can be a hurdle due to a disconnect between emotional and sexual feelings.

The Achiever in life

You always strive for the best quality in everything you do, ensuring that you have the career and lifestyle you desire, along with all the material comforts you want, such as nice clothes, a fancy car, and a beautiful home.

You consistently set goals for yourself and have a knack for achieving them, both in your professional and personal life.

It's highly probable that you hold a leadership position in your job, and your decisions often carry significant weight with others. You possess the skill to involve and collaborate with others in decision-making processes.

 

You take great pride in your accomplishments and what you've achieved in life.

Furthermore, you're likely to excel in sports, putting your passion and dedication into your athletic pursuits, which leads to outstanding performance in your chosen sports.

Simple exercises

One way to improve your connection with someone is by embracing intimacy and learning to let go of control.

 

Here's how you can do it:

Find a quiet, comfortable space with your partner or imagine someone if you're alone.

Sit facing each other and take a moment to relax. Place a hand on your heart and another on your lower abdomen.

Look into each other's eyes and start breathing together. Try to match your breaths, inhaling and exhaling at the same time.

Let go of any preconceived notions or judgments about the other person. Instead, focus on truly seeing and understanding them beyond your thoughts.

Pay attention to the sensations and emotions that arise during this exercise. Notice how you feel and what thoughts come to mind.

If you have a partner or a friend with you, you can take it a step further by asking them to stand behind you, ready to catch you if you decide to lean backward (you can also blindfold yourself if you're comfortable with it).

 

This exercise is designed to promote intimacy, trust, and vulnerability in your relationships.

I want more

If you see yourself in this description and want to learn more, you can schedule a free 20-minute consultation or an introductory session with me. During this session, we'll delve deeper into the traits and potential of the Achiever personality type.

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